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Waddup y’all! Today we discuss one of my favorite types of love: self looovvvvveee! Alright so I’m not one to make generalizations, or prescribe “one size fits all” kinds of suggestions for growth. Basically, I am just going to keep it really real, real quick about my own life.
Self love is a concept I only truly became aware of a few years ago. Initially, I began by doing activities or buying things to make myself feel better. Ain’t gon’ lie… I still do but on a much smaller scale. I would get my nails done, eat a sweet treat, or splurge on something I wanted fairly frequently. It helped. But ultimately, my self love practices have evolved into making myself a priority amongst the many things and people for which I genuinely care.
Treat Yourself Art Print. The Just, Girl. Project via society6.com
Solely doing things or activities for myself did nothing to cultivate a healthy relationship within. It became clear that I had waaaaayyyy more internal work to do because those small treats stopped producing the same high. The biggest step for me was confronting the barriers that prevented me from accepting the woman I was at that moment in time. At that time, I struggled with a negative body image and basing my worth and value on my accomplishments. I failed to acknowledge that my body had carried me through every trial and triumph for 20+ years. All I did was mistreat and despise her. I felt as if I was not deserving of good things if I could not consistently add a bullet point to my list of accolades. I still wrestle with that one if I’m being honest. Here are a few practical things that helped me combat the negativity:
Body Positive Art Print. The Just, Girl. Project via society6.com
For me, it all boiled down to making consistent, small choices and discipline. I had to confront my fears, insecurities, and negative thought patterns, create a plan and engage my village in holding me accountable. I had to show myself grace and truly befriend the woman within!
Article written by Jherica Johnson
Featured Image obtained from: http://www.balayoga.com/self-love/